LIFE IS KINDA SIMPLE, WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT. . .
While you’re in the womb you experience your birth mother’s emotions through the umbilical cord. (This is science.)
From her responses and reactions to life (and you), you learn stuff about yourself and about life.
Stuff like ‘Life is safe’, ‘I am wanted’ and ‘I’m ok’ or stuff like ‘Life is dangerous’, ‘I’m not wanted’ and ‘I’m not ok’.
Then you are born and hey ho presto, your brain not only secretes a chemical to make it easier for you to learn, but also spends most of its time in a hypnotic wave pattern; effectively you become a sponge, learning about life from everything and everyone around you. (This is also science.)
You notice how your parents treat each other and you form beliefs about relationships like ‘Men are bastards and women can’t be trusted’ or ‘Men are good and woman can be trusted.”
You notice how money features (or doesn’t feature) in your family, how it gets treated and talked about by those around you, and you form beliefs around money like ‘Money is hard to come by and there’s never enough’ or ‘Money flows to me easily and there’s always enough’.
You notice what happens in the class or race or gender you’re born into, and you learn pretty quickly where the glass ceiling is (if there is one) and that ‘The likes of us can never be a doctor, or wealthy, or run my own business’ or ‘I can become whatever and be whoever I want to be’. If you’re on the wrong side of oppression you learn quickly that you are not as good as, smart as, intelligent as, strong as, or whatever as, as ‘the other’, and that you should know your place.
You notice how illness and disease get treated and you form your beliefs around health: ‘I have to take a pill every time my body doesn’t feel well’ or ‘Dis-ease is important information’ and ‘My body can heal itself’.
More things happen; friends come and go, betray you or don’t; so do teachers and possibly even preachers. You may get bullied or become one. You may be emotionally, physically, or sexually abused and you learn from that ‘I deserve to be treated badly’ and ‘I cannot stand up for myself’ or you are treated with love, kindness and respect and learn that ‘I am lovable and deserve kindness’ and ‘I matter’.
Then something fascinating happens.
At about the age of 6 or 7 your brain waves change shape and the ‘learning’ chemical also switches off; for the most part, the foundation has been laid and the infinite number of beliefs that you already hold will govern your life until the day you die.
Physiologically, the synapses that ‘hold’ these lessons close down and lock in. (Yep, science again.)
Of course you will learn more as you grow up – and older – but for the most, your brain has locked in your core beliefs about life, love, sex, money, food, relationships, men, women, and ‘the other’ like white and black, straight and gay, and so on.
Because these beliefs are, for the most, unconscious, you’re now on autopilot and because your unconscious mind deletes, distorts and generalises information to match your beliefs, you’ll reinforce those original beliefs again and again and again, and get to be right 99% of the time.
Oh sure there will be exceptions – a man will treat you kindly, challenging your belief that all men are bastards or you’ll land a dream job proving that you are not ‘useless’ after all – but unconsciously you’ll be striving for that comfortable place where you get to be right about your beliefs – and pretty soon the ‘nice man’ will turn into yet another abuser or you’ll mess up so badly at work that you get sacked; proving again that, after all, men are bastards and that you are useless. That’s the law of attraction, right there.
On the other hand, if you believe that you are lovable, that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and that the gender you are attracted to can be trusted, you’ll very likely find yourself in a beautiful relationship, and provided that you have healthy beliefs around wealth and your own worth, will probably be doing very well on that front too. Also the law of attraction, of course.
If you are like most people, when you don’t get what you want – when yet again, you get hurt, disappointed and angry - you’ll buckle up, try to ‘get over it’ and try again. Maybe you quit the job, move to a new town or even a new country. You may vow to ‘never again’ enter a relationship or start up a business, or to enlist a coach to help you work harder and smarter at it next time.
If you are like most people, when you’ve had enough disappointment, you’ll allow ‘reality’ to set in, and when that happens you will very likely give up on that part of your dream.
More so, you’ll try to convince yourself and those around you that your dream wasn’t that important by saying things like ‘It wasn’t meant to be.’ and heads will nod conspiratorially.
Those around you who thought that your dreams were unrealistic will sigh sighs of relief – not for you (as they will tell themselves) but relieved that someone else has settled for the mundane, the average and the ‘realistic’ because for a while at least, it lessens their disappointment in how their life hasn’t worked out the way they dreamed it would and it removes the gnawing awareness that the clock is ticking, that no-one is coming to rescue them and that, ultimately, it is up to them.
And you’ll wonder why it feels all so empty.
Although you may think that the examples are extreme, the truth is that they are very common.
How do I know? Because I’ve spent the last 15 years studying this phenomenon and have heard thousands of stories. Stories with unique details … and the same bottom line.
The thing is, unless you change your beliefs on the inside, nothing on the outside will change long-term.
If you are like most people, when you’ve had enough disappointment, you’ll allow ‘reality’ to set in, and when that happens you will very likely give up on that part of your dream.
More so, you’ll try to convince yourself and those around you that your dream wasn’t that important by saying things like ‘It wasn’t meant to be’ and heads will nod conspiratorially.
Those around you who thought that your dreams were unrealistic will sigh sighs of relief - not for you (as they will tell themselves) but in relief that someone else has settled for the mundane, the average and the ‘realistic’ because for a while at least, it lessens their own pain and disappointment about how their own life hasn’t worked out the way they dreamed it would; for a while, it removes the gnawing awareness that the clock is ticking, that no-one is coming to rescue them and that, ultimately, it is up to them.
Bennie NaudéThis is not new; check inside yourself right now and you’ll discover that you already know it be true; at a deeper level you have always known that it’s all up to you to create the life of your dreams, and that you can.
Think about it.
WANT MORE PROOF?
Here it is.
Take a look at any area of your life right now (sex, money, relationships, men, women, health, politicians) and ask yourself ‘What beliefs do I hold about this?’ If you compare that answer with your life experience you’ll see that it’s true. When you use a search engine and type in ‘scarcity’ you find millions of results on …. well … scarcity, of course. When you type in ‘prosperity’, that’s what you get. Life is the same; this mechanism – which applies to us all and is a totally natural principle that actually makes a lot of sense if you think about it – is the reason why most people aren’t who they want to be, are not doing what they’d love to do, and therefore don’t have what they want.
Most people think that reality creates beliefs, when in fact, it’s beliefs that create reality.
Now there’s a thought, don’t you think?
Limiting beliefs are the reason why you don’t yet have what you want; it’s what keeps you smaller than you are.
And you can change them if you know how. In the end, it is that simple.
Now YOU get to choose.
You can keep fighting your way upstream (or maybe you’ve already confused giving up with ‘going with the flow’), and a year or 10 years from now you still have the same conversations with the same people (not to mention, with yourself) about how things never change for you.
Things won’t change unless you do.
Tomorrow will only be different if YOU are.
You can make all the external changes in the world (house, husband and hairstyle) and time and again you’ll end up in front of the same you in the mirror.
Or you start changing the only place real change will ever happen – inside of you – and then see how the world on the outside changes for you.
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